The Patriarchal Infiltration of #BLM
Is Black Women’s Race Loyalty to Black Men Killing Us?
By Tiffany Onyenagubo
Earlier this year, Houston rapper Megan Thee Stallion got involved in a shooting incident in Los Angeles, California, with notorious R&B singer Tory Lanez. The Meg and Tory shooting incident happened just weeks after the international civil unrest surrounding George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor and millions of other Black lives that were taken.
The year 2020 has been explosive. From a deadly pandemic that has put economic, emotional, and physical hardship upon all global citizens, to police brutality and execution more lethal than ever — all during a reckless election year — the shooting incident between Meg and Tory forced one of the most important conversations yet: who looks after Black women besides other Black women?
The deaths of Breonna Taylor and Sandra Bland proved that the world is trying to work harder than its demons to ensure Black women are erased from society. Megan thee Stallion was shot by Tory and found herself in fear of police moments after, displaying the intersection of gun violence and police brutality that Black women live in.
Megan explained on Instagram Live weeks after her injury that she was traumatized after being shot by Tory and equally as traumatized by what happened after the shooting occurred: the presence of the LAPD. She stayed silent for weeks, hyper aware of the public’s lack of trust in the black woman’s claims. When she did speak up to authorities, she was labeled a “snitch” by social media. We Black women do not live in a world that protects us.
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Megan told her story of the incident while Tory stayed in the shadows. Social media users filled his silence with their opinions. Many people, primarily men, demanded Tory speak on the incident to share his version. But what story canTory share?
TMZ recently shared text messages exchanged between Tory and Megan which explained that Tory was drunk when he shot her. Despite this evidence, many people only wanted to hear from Tory. We live in a society that fails to listen to Black women. We refuse to believe men murder women for no reason. Megan wassexually objectified her entire career. Not seen as a person, Megan was seen as a thing to fuck. Her pain was not validated because her humanity wasn’t.
These attacks remind us of the performance Black men put on to support the well-being of Black women. Earlier this year, Tory’s career was gaining popularity. He gave pro-Black virtue signals in his 'Good Love' music video colorism drama. Black men try to rebrand and gain access, notoriety and popularity and do not hold themselves accountable for abusive behavior. These Black male artists have a cover to remain abusers, while fans and supporters advocate for them because of their attachment to what they make.
Where Do We Go From Here?
The problem with power is that it’s assigned, not taken or given, and power doesn’t last long.
The peace of mind and health of Black women can not be commodified. The late great Neighborhood Nip once said, “Once you cost me my peace, you got to go. You costing too much.” Black women deserve to live in a world that caters to our protection.
Many Black men have participated in the patriarchal infiltration of the Black Lives Matter movement. We are seeing white people host CNN interviews with only cisgender Black men, Black men who push their face into the media to be the next internet civil rights leader, Black men who worshipand wantwhat white men have: power.
Queer and non-queer Black women have been in the forefront of the civil rights movement since its beginning, yet we find ourselves powerless when we show up for our own people. Black women spent all summer in protest and put ourselves in front of the cop’s clip, we placed our bodies between our people and the police, only to turn around and get thrown in dumpsters at protests. Black women are murdered, r*ped, assaulted and discarded in society and that includes our men. We deserve to be protected and embody the right for self empowerment without being lightskin/mixed/white-passing or sexually submissive. . So I pin the question again: